From the ongoing pandemic and the monkeypox outbreak to the charged political landscape, New York City mom and entrepreneur Lyss Stern has been increasingly anxious.
Stern worries that she will pass all of this fretting down to her 8-year-old daughter, and a new study suggests she just might.
"Children may be more likely to learn anxious behavior if it is being displayed by their same-sex parent (i.e., sons learning their fathers' behavior and daughters learning their mothers' behavior)," said study co-author Barbara Pavlova, a clinical psychologist in the mood disorders program at Nova Scotia Health Authority in Halifax, Canada.
But this isn't inevitable or irreversible, Pavlova said. "The results suggest that children learn anxious behavior from their parents, and this means that transmission of anxiety from parents to children may be preventable."
For the study, Pavlova and her colleagues looked at how anxiety was passed down among parents to same-sex kids among 398 kids from 221 mothers and 237 fathers.
The upshot? Anxious moms are more likely to have anxious daughters, and anxious dads are more likely to have anxious sons. But sharing the house with a same-sex parent who isn't anxious appears to protect children from anxiety. Those kids were 38% less likely to develop an anxiety disorder, the researchers found.
"Because children share approximately the same amount of genetic material with their mothers and fathers, our findings suggest that the role of environmental factors may be especially strong in the transmission of anxiety," Pavlova said.
Anxiety disorders are very common, and they are associated with depression, educational underachievement, substance abuse and suicide, the study authors said in background notes.
But they are also treatable, Pavlova said.
"Parents should seek help with their own anxiety not just for their own health, but also for the health of their children," she suggested. "Model courageous behavior to their children and gently encourage them to face situations that may be anxiety-provoking."
Stern is aiming to do just that. "I want my daughter to be calm and not feed off of my anxious energy, so I have introduced calming routines for both of us -- especially before bedtime," she said.
Stern is helping other moms do the same through her latest venture, Moms Time Out, which hosts retreats and events for stressed-out moms.
The new study was published online July 12 in JAMA Network Open.
The findings can help parents like Stern gain greater insight into their own behavior, said Moriah Thomason. She is an associate professor of child and adolescent psychiatry at NYU Langone Health in New York City.
"Parents can see that there is a relationship between moms and daughters and fathers and sons and anxiety," said Thomason, who was not involved in the study.
When viewed through the lens of the ongoing COVID-19 pandemic, the findings should serve as a wake-up call, Thomason said. The pandemic has increased anxiety levels for many, and kids are spending more time with their families due to lockdowns and quarantine requirements.
"They can learn from you, but it's malleable," she said.
Most people who grapple with anxiety have a list of things that help, whether meditation, therapy, medication or other relaxation methods. "Be more vocal about the things that have worked for you with kids who are struggling with anxiety," Thomason suggested.
The American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry has tips on recognizing and treating anxiety in kids.
SOURCES: Lyss Stern, New York City; Barbara Pavlova, PhD, clinical psychologist, mood disorders program, Nova Scotia Health Authority, Halifax, Nova Scotia; Moriah Thomason, PhD, Barakett associate professor of child & adolescent psychiatry, and program director, Neurodevelopmental Early Childhood Research, Child Study Center, NYU Langone Health, New York City; JAMA Network Open, July 12, 2022, online